A thought crossed my mind, how can you tell if someone (a former friend) deserve's a second chance? There is a person I know......we used to be friends....and on the path I would say to being closer friends.
To make a long story short, a couple of years back, this person, who I then worked with.....because I disagreed with their opinion on something, went to my then boss behind my back to force me to do something. Understandably, I was not in the slightest bit impressed. Needless to say this person was completely blanked from my life.......and hardly any contact was sought for two years after.
Lately, I have been coming into more frequent contact with this person. It makes me think, back when they double crossed me, there was a lot of wrong's being done to this person in their life, that was not their fault. Health was also an issue...and still is. The question I have in my head....was it due to the stress they had in their life back then, that caused them to act in such a way against a friend....did they act out of character at that time? Or, can this person ever regain my trust....should I give them a second chance?
I really am in two minds. I have been burned too many times and to be honest, at this stage, my general policy is "one strike and you're out!!!" However, I suppose, most deserve a second chance.....I know I have been that lucky.....but how is best to decide WHO deserves that second chance....when doubt is high?
Time to reflect over some mulled wine I feel :-)
My experience is that going back after a serious fall-out can work for a bit of time, but for me it has never lasted. No reason you shouldn't try though, if you feel like it. There are worse things in the world than a second fall-out.
ReplyDeleteAnd I have glühwein at home, should you feel like stopping by ;)
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True words. And you have me sold on the Glühwein.....you will have a guaranteed customer this evening!!! :-)
DeleteThe older I get, the "one strike and you are out " rule prevails in my book. However, I also know that we can never pretend to know what went thru their heads when they did what they did!
ReplyDeleteI do however believe in honest and open communication. If the relationship is worth saving, it takes both parties to talk it out in the open and move forward with it. If it works, great! If it doesn't, you gave it a shot! Steph xx
Nicely put Steph :-) xxx
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