Did you ever wonder how and why you make a decision? Did you ever wonder who and/or what you make a decision for? The last while has been somewhat of an eye opener in ways. At times disappointing, brutal, foreboding but at all times a mental and positive relief of shackles which once were hidden to my heart and soul. Now I am not saying that I will not be fooled again......in one sense I would welcome it as it will help me to continue to learn and become stronger.
So what on earth am I talking about I hear you say.......get to the bloody point!!! I know.....I do have a tendency to waffle somewhat. Well the point is that I never truly appreciated how much I had made a decision, lived my life in a certain way at times which was totally against my own ideals and in the long run did and/or could have negatively affected my happiness. I am not saying on the other hand that one should always life for ones own wishes.....that would be purely selfish, self absorbed, self righteous and WRONG. However, we should recognise when it comes to making those fundamental decisions about what we do and we do not want, what would and would not affect our happiness. Life is not worth living if living in the shadow of someone else/a malformed ideology or on a path which is not our own.
It all boils down to listening to our own inner voice. The older I get, the more I realise that we all have an inner instinct, a sixth sense as it were, which tries to guide us in the right direction and which also tries to inform us how best to live our own life and how best to interact positively with those around us, our loved ones and those closest to us. It is about a respect for self and others, the environment that we live in. That we all have our part to play and we should play the hand of cards dealt to us wisely, intelligently and with respect.
Maybe it is the advance of age........crossing a threshold from Spring to Summer.....where nature has now shown all its blossoming beauty and worth....the potential of what was, is, will be and never will be again. For me it is a different stage of adulthood where the rose tainted glasses are off and life's truths become that much more apparent and evident. That to best live your life you must be careful to make honest and truthful choices and decisions. Life will continue on come what may....learn from the past.....live the present well.....and look forward to the future that your present will form.
AbFab
Sunday, 26 May 2013
Tuesday, 7 May 2013
The plus side of being unemployed.....for a while.
So fantastic news......I have a job yet again....a new contract for 7 months with the possibility of extension. When that happens.....I will believe it :-).
Now that I am on the verge of being a working person once more.....I am reflecting over the last several months, the ups and the downs and the lessons learned. Some might say how lucky I was......to have had so much time off.....and such people have no concept of what being unemployed can do to one`s psyche.....if you are not careful. It would have been so easy to have an unstructured day, every day. Days where you see nothing but the four walls of your home, days where you go out to a bar and feel guilty as you have not "earned" the right in your mind, of being allowed to go out, spend and enjoy. It is so easy to fall into a trap of being a "non person" whereby you could feel that you are not contributing to the world around you and therefore have lost your place within it.
The above is so easy a trap, were it not for good friends, family and maintaining confidence in oneself that with time, all things change....even the difficult times. My period of reawakening in a way has been one where the lessons of living more simply have been reiterated. The joy that can be taken from a simple moment with a friend, a walk in the park and/or the kind gesture of a stranger. To take a step out of the business world from which I came, and then to look back onto it.....its chaotic and frentic values, where loyalty, honesty and stability can be of short measure......it can make one reassess how to better and more successfully interact within such an environment....upon the upcoming return. To take a simple lesson.....to do your work well.....treat those like you want to be treated, build bridges not walls and to trust none but the few....these will be the simple lessons that I will try to live by with greater conviction once I return to the business world.
There is too much back stabbing, dishonesty, lies and people with masks in our working and social environment. Those who portray one image, only to deny themselves their own truth. Hidden agenda's and holes into negative spiral behavioural patterns.....traps that can lead your life of course, away from the happiness that everyone deserves. To remember the simple lessons in life.....to trust your instincts.....to maintain relations with those that are true and loyal to you, as you are to them......to love and be loved....to believe in your own ability and not let anyone take away your confidence so as to feed their own insecurities. Being unemployed was not such a waste after all. This period, with each passing month....peeled the unnecessary layers of the onion, to reveal the true core of what matters.....and to discard those life masks which instead of protecting only prevent from what is being true to be known.
Here's to the next chapter.........
Now that I am on the verge of being a working person once more.....I am reflecting over the last several months, the ups and the downs and the lessons learned. Some might say how lucky I was......to have had so much time off.....and such people have no concept of what being unemployed can do to one`s psyche.....if you are not careful. It would have been so easy to have an unstructured day, every day. Days where you see nothing but the four walls of your home, days where you go out to a bar and feel guilty as you have not "earned" the right in your mind, of being allowed to go out, spend and enjoy. It is so easy to fall into a trap of being a "non person" whereby you could feel that you are not contributing to the world around you and therefore have lost your place within it.
The above is so easy a trap, were it not for good friends, family and maintaining confidence in oneself that with time, all things change....even the difficult times. My period of reawakening in a way has been one where the lessons of living more simply have been reiterated. The joy that can be taken from a simple moment with a friend, a walk in the park and/or the kind gesture of a stranger. To take a step out of the business world from which I came, and then to look back onto it.....its chaotic and frentic values, where loyalty, honesty and stability can be of short measure......it can make one reassess how to better and more successfully interact within such an environment....upon the upcoming return. To take a simple lesson.....to do your work well.....treat those like you want to be treated, build bridges not walls and to trust none but the few....these will be the simple lessons that I will try to live by with greater conviction once I return to the business world.
There is too much back stabbing, dishonesty, lies and people with masks in our working and social environment. Those who portray one image, only to deny themselves their own truth. Hidden agenda's and holes into negative spiral behavioural patterns.....traps that can lead your life of course, away from the happiness that everyone deserves. To remember the simple lessons in life.....to trust your instincts.....to maintain relations with those that are true and loyal to you, as you are to them......to love and be loved....to believe in your own ability and not let anyone take away your confidence so as to feed their own insecurities. Being unemployed was not such a waste after all. This period, with each passing month....peeled the unnecessary layers of the onion, to reveal the true core of what matters.....and to discard those life masks which instead of protecting only prevent from what is being true to be known.
Here's to the next chapter.........
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