Talked with an old friend today.....blast from the past. We don't speak often now since I started to live here.....but when we do, there is no effort. Conversation flows, an hour passes in the blink of an eye. We can literally talk about anything, the topic changing like the wind.....
Anyways, we started talking about happiness....each of us wanting to make sure if the other needed any help I suppose, in what ever way was possible when talking down a phone line. While talking, I mentioned to him, had I the mindset which I inflicted upon myself in my 20's, I would right now be depressed.
I gladly learned from two depressions that I lived in my teens and 20's.....and the mindset I had then was the perfect garden for the evil seeds of depression to take root. Got through both depressions I did, but also with a lot of help from loved ones, and a very good therapist. And what is evident from that experience, is the tools I learned to survive, have helped me to not fall into a depression since....touch wood.
The first two years here were awful, but the inner strength that was always there came through....the lessons learned remembered....the gift of love from friends and family once again there. If there is one method to life I have now is to always try to "get the lesson," ....be it from the good or the bad times.......to talk about those feelings....free those thoughts from your head which could otherwise fester and take control....to remember your friends and family....who sometimes are one and the same.....
You know what I think? People who have the "luxury" of being depressed, do not have enough to do in their lives.
ReplyDeleteI know, I'm lucky to be in the place I am, but I have also listened and learned from my forefathers and -mothers for that matter.
Back in time, survival was the issue. Today we are just too spoiled. We have everything. Food, clothing and a roof over our heads. Thus, depression is a "luxury".
I am glad to hear you got over it.
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PS. Bet the glühwein helped :)
Thanks A!!! Have to say that I agree and disagree with you.
DeleteAGREE: When people get depressed cos they cannot attain a material wealth status that they desire or stuff like that....so stupid to base your entire happiness on that.
DISAGREE: If someone goes through a trauma not caused by them, which is overwhelming and they do not have the tools or assistance to cope, before the damage is done....then a potential depression is not their fault nor a luxury....it is a curse.
Whatever the cause of the depression....love, understanding, support from the right people and the proper mental attitude will cure it.... :-).
And the evidence is also in how you learned to help others babe. Sxx
ReplyDeleteAwwww.....thank you....me blushing now :-)
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